This article, by Chloe Anderson,
was originally published on href="http://www.modernman.com/5-ways-to-score-a-second-date/1/">Modern Man.
According to scientists, men know whether or not a woman has long-term potential within a
few minutes of meeting her. When I first heard that, I felt a lot of pressure to perform
on first dates. But then I realized it’s not the woman who needs to come off well in
that situation -- it’s the guy. After all, if you think she’s awesome, you
need to make sure you can show her you’re awesome enough to go out with again. And
while I can’t make you
well, smell better, or work out more often, I can tell you how to behave on a first
date so that you score a second date.
1. Ask Her Questions
Women enjoy talking -- studies have shown we tend to communicate verbally more often than
dudes -- so
her questions about where she grew up, what her job is like, what sorts of hobbies she
has, and what her favorite My Little Pony was. Women often naturally take on the role of
an interviewer on dates, so you needn’t worry about it becoming a one-sided
conversation; she’ll still ask you about how you got that cool scar on your chin.
And then you can tell her all about the time you faced down a lion with nothing but a whip
on a circus train hurtling through the desert when you were a teenager.
2. Be Nice To Other People
We notice when you’re short with the waitress, or you only leave the bartender a
measly $1 tip on a $25 bar tab… and then we assume you’re an undercover
assh*le who’ll cheat on us with a stripper. Is that a little presumptuous? Yes. But
this is how our minds work. Being needlessly rude to anyone on date No. 1 can easily sink
your chances for date No. 2, so cover your bases and be nice and generous. (That’s
good advice anytime, actually.)
3. Pick Up The Tab
I know that going Dutch makes sense -- the economy stinks, she has a job just like you,
you may not even know each other all that well -- but if you don’t at least make a
sincere offer to
the tab, you very well may not get a second date. (Hey, we push eight-pound mini
humans out of our vaginas; the least you can do is pay for some chicken and a couple
glasses of wine.) When the bill comes, reach for it immediately and slide it toward you.
If she offers to split it, politely but adamantly decline -- or suavely suggest that she
buy you an after-dinner drink instead. However, if she nearly has an aneurism insisting
over and over again that you split it, just let her; no one wants to have a screaming
match over who’s paying, and besides, there’s a good chance she’s so
insistent because she knows she doesn’t want a second date.
4. Go In For A Kiss
Patti Stanger is the star of Bravo’s Millionaire Matchmaker, which I’m sure
you already knew since you’re a huge fan of the show. Anyway, she has at least one
piece of good advice: At the end of the night,
don’t give your date a romantic smooch, you have severely increased your chances of
landing in the dreaded friend zone. And guys in the friend zone don’t usually
land date No. 2. I happen to think a vertical, fully-clothed make out sesh on
someone’s couch is the way to go. But if your date isn’t as slutty as I am, go
in for the kill after walking her to her car or front door.
5. Follow The Two-Day Rule
If you make contact the very next day, you risk coming off as too eager. But by the third
day of radio silence, she starts to think she’s never going to hear from you again,
and then she starts to justify why she’s, like, totally OK with that: the slight gap
between your teeth, the fact that you’re a loud breather, the fact that you wore
sneakers on the date. Before you know it, her friends are telling her she can do better
than you. (I know it sounds crazy, but again, this is just the way it works.) So I highly
recommend following the two-day rule; get in touch with her no more and no less than a
couple days after your first date. What should say? A simple “Thursday night was
fun! Do you have plans next Friday?” will do just fine.Check out more at
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